Whilst I continue to be deep in the chaotic throes of moving house, the lovely Sabina from Mummy Matters has kindly written a guest post on what she has learnt since becoming a parent.
Over to Sabina…
For as long as I can remember I have wanted to be a Mummy first and foremost. I didn’t have any huge career aspirations or dreams of travelling the world, I just knew that I wanted to be a Mummy. To have someone to pour my love into and hopefully who would love me in return. I am very proud to say that I have been lucky, not only to have three beautiful children of my own blood but I also have a handsome stepson who loves me unconditionally too. I have been a ‘Mum’ in one capacity or another for 11 years now (whoa that’s a scary thought!) and I wanted to share a few of the things I have learnt along the way about being a parent.
1. You don’t have to give birth to a child or be a blood relative to fall in love with them or for them to love you in return. A parent is someone who raises (or helps to raise) a child through the good times and the bad.
2. Breastfeeding doesn’t come naturally, it is a skill to be learnt by both Mother and Baby. I assumed (wrongly) that breastfeeding would be a breeze but as I found out when breastfeeding my babies, each child and each breastfeeding story would be completely different.
3. Weaning is NOT my forte! Again, like breastfeeding, I thought it was the natural next-step that would just happen and that all babies would want to eat. What I found out was that my weaning journey would not only be a difficult one with Little Bean but that I would carry the scars through to Beanie Boy and Jelly Bean to the point that mealtimes STILL fill me with dread.
4. It’s ok to ask for help. Parenting, despite being the most rewarding ‘job’ in the world is actually REALLY hard. Whether your baby is just a few days old, a few years or even a teenager there are going to be times where you think to yourself “I can’t do this” and you need to reach out. It’s ok because 99% of parents will have been there and you’d be surprised just how many people you can turn to who will not only be happy to help, they will feel special that you have turned to them in your time of need. It will also show your children that you aren’t a superhero, that we all have bad days and that in those times, there are people who you can turn to. In years’ to come that knowledge will help them too.
5. It’s ok to admit you were wrong. Ok, so this might be a difficult one BUT it’s an important one because we ALL make mistakes but the biggie is whether we can be gracious enough to hold our hands up and say “I was wrong, I’m sorry”. Again, this is a great life lesson for our children because they will see that by admitting we were wrong, things that be done to rectify the situation or at least go some way to making amends.
6. You will NEVER know just how deep you can love until you become a parent. Yes we love our partners, boyfriends/girlfriends, Husbands/Wives, our own parents and our best friends but the love between a parent and child is like no other. My love for my Beans makes me feel like my heart could explode it is so full of love for them.
Thank you very much Sabina, some great points there that I think we need to be reminded of sometimes.