It’s the little things…

January 17, 2011 · 34 comments

Recently I’ve been feeling a little exhausted and irritable. Not having anyone to say at the end of the day, “Please take the baby” or “Can you do bedtime tonight?” “I can’t face cooking tonight,how about a take away?” when I have five children can be hard at times. I’ve not had a single day to myself in months, even since the children have been back to school I’ve had at least one child off sick….but hey I am not looking for sympathy, there are a lot of us out there.

However this weekend I had a whole thirty hours to myself, to do with whatever I chose. I cannot tell you what bliss that was. I could have gone out in the evening but  decided instead to stay in and just relax, chill and listen to the silence.

I met a friend for lunch, it was so wonderful to sit down on a Saturday lunchtime, drinking a glass of wine, eating risotto and having a long long chat. It felt so grown up and naughty! I could feel all my worries melt away and my shoulders relax for a while.

Then I did a little retail therapy, I had forgotten how much fun it is to go shopping with another adult, swapping beauty secrets…looking at bags we can’t afford. I treated myself to some perfume in the sale, it felt very decadent but so good. We all need to treat ourselves sometimes.

When I got home to do more of nothing, with a smile on my face feeling totally relaxed for the first time in ages, I saw this tweet from Liz at Living With Kids: And it is…It’s the little things that make such a difference, a smile from your tiny baby, a hug or the first time they say, “I love you,” being giving flowers or receiving an unexpected letter from a friend. So I thought I’d list other ways that make me feel better, special, relaxed and treated that don’t necessarily cost anything at all or not very much.

  • A deep bubble bath with candles burning all around the edge
  • Giving myself a facial, the works;  scrub, mask, cucumber!
  • Being given flowers or buying myself flowers, I treated myself to roses this week, they weren’t expensive and the pleasure they give me is worth every penny
  • Reading a book
  • Someone else cooking a meal
  • Painting my nails, I feel pampered and elegant and doing my finger nails feels extra special
  • Buying a new lipstick like Liz did. Wearing the same lipstick for years doesn’t feel special,buy a new one it doesn’t have to be expensive
  • Getting a new recipe book, that gives me a lot of pleasure and is a real treat
  • A kiss
  • Someone saying “You look great!”

What makes a difference to you? Let me know and if I get enough I will compile another post with links.

{ 34 comments… read them below or add one }

1 ridlydidly January 22, 2011 at 2:08 pm

such a lovely piece and how nice to give this some serious thought and to articulate it.

At present and during these dark winter months, tops are

1. Swimming, followed by steam and sauna…never want it to end…
2. Sofa with tv blankets, surrounded by Bingo, Molly and Bongo with access to online, mobys, remotes, reading material, knitting, radio, food and drink. At this moment no further movement is required for hours….bliss

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2 Nova January 26, 2011 at 6:52 pm

Thanks for the comment, I love being tucked up with a blanket on the sofa. :)

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3 Heather Davis January 20, 2011 at 10:58 pm

It’s brilliant that you were able to have some “me” time. I can’t survive without it. For me pampering comes in the form of a nap! I love taking myself off to my bedroom on a Sat or Sun (late) afternoon, getting under the duvet, grabbing a book, and then slowly letting my eyelids drop and everything going dark. It’s bliss. The other thing I love is lying in. Sad that sleep for me is so wonderful!! Guess it’s from the many years of not having enough.

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4 Nova January 26, 2011 at 6:52 pm

I used to get naps, not any more. :( I love my sleep too, so so much! ;)

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5 Mommy@Bodfortea January 20, 2011 at 6:05 am

This is soooo true! The little things really do make the world of difference. A new lipstick, buying yourself flowers (or better yet someone else buying them) or just sitting and reading. Bliss.

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6 Nova January 26, 2011 at 6:53 pm

Yes having the time to sit and read is such a luxury. :)

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7 Emma January 19, 2011 at 1:02 am

I love really hot bubbly baths, reading, flowers, going to the cinema without paying for a babysitter, enjoying the peace and quiet without Chick…….and the huge hugs and kisses she gives me when I get her back!!! So glad that you had a lovely weekend xx

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8 Nova January 26, 2011 at 7:54 pm

Thank you Emma, I can’t remember the last time I went to the cinema without children! I must do that soon. :) x

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9 Gary January 18, 2011 at 4:15 pm

Having some time on my own and being able to watch what I want on the TV!

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10 Nova January 26, 2011 at 7:55 pm

Yes choosing what to watch is a big bonus. Thanks for the comment. :)

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11 boucheinthecity ( Jo ) January 18, 2011 at 1:09 pm

I am so pleased that you enjoyed your alone time so much…… You deserve more of these days!

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12 Nova January 26, 2011 at 7:55 pm

Thanks Jo. X

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13 Susan Mann January 18, 2011 at 12:06 pm

Well done treating and pampering yourself. You deserved every minute of it. x

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14 Nova January 26, 2011 at 7:56 pm

Awww, thanks. In some respects I’m very lucky. Not everyone gets any time at all. X

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15 PippaD January 18, 2011 at 11:20 am

You know one of the best things that I can do is a little exercise, it just makes everything feel better even if I am already tired. Oh and a shower, showers were invented by the Gods I just know it. Oh and a walk in the cool air or a strong wind behind you so you feel like you are flying! Oh and getting into freshly laundered bed sheets… I could go on lol

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16 Nova January 26, 2011 at 7:56 pm

It does make you feel better doesn’t it. I have to admit I’m so unmotivated at the moment and a bit of a couch potato! But clean sheets…oh yes, I love that! :)

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17 ella January 18, 2011 at 12:13 am

Sounds like you had a lovely weekend and you definitely deserve to treat yourself.

For me it always makes a difference to me to have a phone call from a friend, especially from someone I haven’t seen in a while and having time (and quiet!) to chat and catch up. Facebook and emails are great but a phone call is really special these days.

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18 Nova January 26, 2011 at 7:57 pm

Catching up is lovely isn’t it. :)

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19 Pantswithnames January 18, 2011 at 12:09 am

The little things make such a difference. After a shocking day, having a little person curl up to you to say I love you Mummy makes the world right again. Glad you got some time to yourself.

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20 Nova January 26, 2011 at 7:57 pm

Awww, it is bliss isn’t it. X

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21 Liz (LivingwithKids) January 17, 2011 at 10:38 pm

Aw thanks for the mention and I hope you treat yourself a lot, you definitely deserve it x

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22 Nova January 26, 2011 at 7:58 pm

Thank you Liz. :)

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23 Yvonne January 17, 2011 at 9:46 pm

You always, always look GREAT XXX

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24 Nova January 26, 2011 at 7:58 pm

Thank you. :) X

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25 Dave January 17, 2011 at 9:33 pm

A room tidied by the children without me even asking.

Yes, definitely someone doing the cooking for a change.

I little person’s hand being pressed into my own (it’s the bond of trust that melts your heart)

Lovely post Nova! :-)

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26 Nova January 26, 2011 at 7:58 pm

Oh yes rooms being tidied would be lovely here too.
Thank you. :)

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27 tryingtolookfabinyourforties January 17, 2011 at 7:08 pm

So nice for you to finally get some real “me” time. What perfume did you buy? It is the little things indeed, I would love to be bought some Roses. x

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28 Nova January 26, 2011 at 7:59 pm

I bought Stella McCartney Nude. I love it! X

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29 TheMadHouse January 17, 2011 at 2:22 pm

It is the small things that make a big difference to me, the flowers, books, baths. I am a simple girl at heart too. I can not imagine how hard it is to be a single parent and I am in awe of you.

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30 Nova January 26, 2011 at 7:59 pm

Thank you Jen, that means a lot. X

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31 Gigi January 17, 2011 at 12:42 pm

Sounds like we had similar weekends – the boys were gone and I had lunch with a friend. It’s amazing how quiet it is here when they are gone. But now I’m ready for them to be home.

It is the little things – like a new book that you’ve been dying to read. Finishing off some little, un-important project that has been nagging at you. A warm hug. Or even a sweet comment on your blog. It’s the little things that make you smile and brighten your day.

Have a wonderful week! x

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32 Nova January 26, 2011 at 8:00 pm

After starting the year off well with books I haven’t managed to start one for two weeks now and I’ve got lots in the pile I want to get on with. X

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33 Liz@VioletPosy January 17, 2011 at 12:32 pm

I agree the little things do make a massive difference, I do the same thing buy myself flowers every week, hot baths and the odd new book. Simple things make me happy too :)

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34 Nova January 26, 2011 at 8:01 pm

I know it doesn’t have to cost a lot either does it. X

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